This is a topic of conversation that I’ve had with several friends these last couple of weeks, so I figured that I’d go ahead and write a blog post about it.
Within the last few months, I have made my relationship with God my main priority. I am now in a bible study/life group, attend church more regularly, and also try to pray more… and, trust me, all of that is easier said than done. Especially after straying away as much as I did in college.
I’ve had many friends ask me what it is that I pray for. I have a good life, after all, so what I do talk to God about? Well, I talk to him about how good my life is. Don’t get me wrong: my life isn’t perfect and there are days that I’d rather just stay in bed – however, I know and truly believe that I am incredibly blessed.
So, what do I pray about? I thank him for all that I have, for starters, and I pray about my career choices, patience with situations outside of my control, understanding, and other people. I probably pray for others more than I do for myself. Friends, family… and also my future spouse.
But hold on. “Your future spouse??” you may wonder. Yep. That’s right. I do. Yes, I am still single. And, no, I don’t have a timeline to be married by. I’ve learned that God has His own timing, and it always works out better than I could ever hope for. And that also goes for relationships.
While I wait for the right person to be in my life at the right time, I figure that whoever I end up with couldn’t be hurt by a few prayers.
This past Valentines Day, I bought an item to place beside my bed to remind me to pray for my future husband. And it has. Only two people in my life know what this item is, and I probably won’t ever publicly share what it is, but I am still so thankful for it. I encourage others to do the same thing – whether it’s a simple sticky note in your bible or a picture of your parents at their wedding, pick something that’ll remind you to pray for the person that you’ll eventually spend the rest of your life with.
If you think I’m a crazy, hopeless romantic, then I’d probably have to agree with you to some extent. But I choose to have faith and I choose to not be discouraged. It’s not that I am miserable being single and it’s not that I don’t feel like I have potential to make another person happy. It’s more the fact that I trust God to place me in a relationship with somebody when He thinks is best for me. I have to.
So, what do I pray for when I pray for my future husband? My theatre friends automatically assume it’s like the “Matchmaker” song from Fiddler on the Roof and my non-theatre friends think of it more as a “Dear Future Husband” concept.
But it isn’t really a wishlist.
When I pray for my future husband…
I pray that he is in good health and that he is making (decently… haha) smart decisions that will prolong his life.
I pray that he is attending church and seeking to improve his own relationship with God.
I pray that he is growing as a person with any situation that comes his way.
I pray that he is experiencing things/situations that make him question what he has always thought to be true. (In other words, I pray that he is open to change)
I pray that he is living through experiences that will one day make him into a good father.
I pray that he is making wise financial decisions and that he is generous with what he does have.
I pray that he is a good friend to everybody and that he is genuinely kind and shows God’s love to all.
I pray that he doesn’t ever feel like he needs to settle.
I pray that he is making every effort possible to remain in harmony with his family.
I pray that he is trying to improve himself at all times when it comes to obsessions/addictions that aren’t good for him (i.e. watching porn, gambling, etc.).
I pray that he doesn’t feel like he’s alone in the world.
And so much more.
Maybe I don’t have a name or a face to put with those prayers, but I know that he is out there somewhere. Maybe I’ll know who it is next week or maybe it’ll take me a couple more years. There’s no telling. But I find comfort in knowing that it’s all in God’s control and that His timing is planned out for a greater purpose. Even when I do date somebody, I’ll still say a prayer for him and also my future husband… just in case they don’t end up being the same person:) God knows what’s in my heart, though, so I’m not stressing too much about it. For the time being, I’ll prepare my soul and my heart for the day that I am “joined in one flesh” with the love of my life (Genesis 2:24).
“Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” – 2 Corinthians 13:7
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